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survivornotavictim:

I am having a hard time with this picture. If you need to cry… then cry. By holding in the tears, and probably all the emotions and thoughts that go with you, you aren’t helping yourself or anyone else. It takes a lot of energy to ‘bottle things up’, including tears. It wears a person down. It fatigues you…
Instead.. cry… it’s okay. It is NOT a sign of weakness. Being able to admit that you can’t handle everything that life throws at you is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Also, crying is cathartic and a stress reliever. It is a healthier habit to take on, but if you are crying all the time and it is disrupting your daily life, then I would seek help. Perhaps not professional, but talk to someone.. a friend, parent, teacher, counselor, guardian, someone. Let them help you.

survivornotavictim:

I am having a hard time with this picture. If you need to cry… then cry. By holding in the tears, and probably all the emotions and thoughts that go with you, you aren’t helping yourself or anyone else. It takes a lot of energy to ‘bottle things up’, including tears. It wears a person down. It fatigues you…

Instead.. cry… it’s okay. It is NOT a sign of weakness. Being able to admit that you can’t handle everything that life throws at you is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Also, crying is cathartic and a stress reliever. It is a healthier habit to take on, but if you are crying all the time and it is disrupting your daily life, then I would seek help. Perhaps not professional, but talk to someone.. a friend, parent, teacher, counselor, guardian, someone. Let them help you.

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TW: sexual assault, rape, reporting, telling someone, etc.

Sometimes my friends ask me questions, like why I have such an aversion to yogurt. I tell them it is a trigger for me and that have learned by now that that means it triggers a memory of my sexual abuse. I think the texture of yogurt is a…

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survivorempowerment:

Helpful:

  • “You’re doing a great job dealing with the situation.”
  • “What you are doing is very difficult and you’ve done so much already (list her actions).”
  • “It sounds like you have really thought a lot about the situation and what you want to do.”
  • “You really care a lot about your children. You are a wonderful mom.”
  • “You are not to blame for being abused.”
  • “You are not the cause of another’s violent behavior.”
  • “You deserve to be treated with respect.”
  • “You deserve to make your life safe and happy.”
  • “You are not alone. You can ask/have asked others to help you.”
  • “Things may be different now than before, and you and your children may have a different routine, but it may help you and your children live safely.”
  • “I am glad you are here with me now.”
  • “I’m sorry it happened.”
  • “It wasn’t your fault.”
  • “It is ok for you to feel _______________.”
  • “You are not going crazy.”
  • “Things may never be same, but they can be better.”

Harmful:

  • “I understand.”
  • “You’re lucky that….”
  • “You’ll get over it, it will just take a little time.”
  • “I know how you feel.”
  • “Everything will be alright, don’t worry.”
  • “Try to be strong for your children.”
  • “Calm down and try to relax.”
  • “Why didn’t you________________?”
  • “I think you should _______________.”

(Source: crimevictimservices.org)

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You know you’re a survivor when…

youknowyouareasurvivorwhen:

You know you’re a survivor when you push yourself away from people before you get attached to them because you think you don’t deserve to have that attachment; that you’re to broken and fucked up to have that attachment.

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youknowyouareasurvivorwhen:

You’ve persuaded yourself to seek help, but turns out the only way to get an appointment is to make a phonecall to a complete stranger. Now you either hope you get well enough that the thought stops filling you with terror … or you don’t seek help.

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You know you are a survivor when…

youknowyouareasurvivorwhen:

You are triggered by something and feel upset that everyone else isn’t triggered. Why does anyone think Pedo-bear is funny anyways…

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youknowyouareasurvivorwhen:

You cry to yourself sometimes if you’re in a healthy relationship because you’re not used to feeling like you deserve something like that.